Take Me Out to the Ballgame

Go O’s! My family are lifelong Oriole fans, and my mother is the leader of the pack. I have fond and confusing memories from when I was a kid back in the sixties. I would knock on her bedroom door late at night and find her listening to the ballgame on the radio in the dark while wearing her glasses. She said it helped her to focus, and you do what you do to keep your eye on the ball when it’s dark and you can only hear the game.

A few weeks ago, Bob and I ventured to my home state of Maryland for my fiftieth high school reunion. It was held in Annapolis, just down the road from where I was born and close enough to Camden Yards in downtown Baltimore for us to stay over a few days and catch a game.

I was super excited. Bob and I had on matching orange Oriole shirts, and I donned my thirty-year-old Oriole earrings and a brand-new, flowered Oriole ballcap. We had front-row seats down from the third baseline near the foul pole – a great view of our favorite left fielder, Colton Cowser. Unfortunately, he didn’t start that day.

That was the least of the disappointments for us that drizzly Tuesday night in Baltimore, but there was a silver lining on all those rain clouds and all that was required to take advantage of it was showing up at the stadium two hours early and waiting in a light rain to take advantage of the first ever Oriole’s Yard Sale. Usually, you have to pay for things at a Yard Sale, but this one promised free overstock giveaways. That was right up my alley and totally worth a long wait in the rain.

We made friends with people in line who were season ticket holders, and they showed us the ropes, including how to sneak a cowbell into the stadium. They were our escorts to the “sale.”

The cowbell was a gift from my sister Linda to Bob and was in honor of Colton Cowser. When Cowser comes to the plate, the entire stadium moos (not to be confused with boos). People come dressed like a milkman and there are cow prints dotted throughout the stadium. Linda gave Bob a cow-print hat, too. It was a shame that Colton didn’t start. He was one of many not in the starting line-up due to injury or manager’s decision.

The Oriole mascot showed up in the stands behind us. Note the cow headgear.

But back to our SWAG. Our arms were overflowing with 6 t-shirts, 2 ball caps, 2 mini tote bags, 2 water bottles, 2 Oriole Hawaiian shirts, 2 ski caps, and 0 bobbleheads (You can’t have everything!)

After standing in line for quite a while to receive our SWAG, a nice young man escorted us to our seats and even used a chamois to wipe them off for us, but our hands were so full and everything was so wet, we could not put anything down. Bob managed the loot while I hightailed it to the Fanatic Store to buy a tote bag, which they did not have on supply, but they happily gave me a big shopping bag.

We crammed our stuff in the bag and were able to sit down and take in the enormity of the stadium. The distance from home plate to the outfield corners and the center field wall is much greater than it appears on television. The distance from our seats, which were protected by a net to keep us from being beaned by an errant outfield hit, was also greater than we figured it would be. Bob and I looked at each other and said, “We’ll never be able to see what’s going on from out here.” The one thing we could appreciate from our angle was how fast the pitches were. Amazing.

Our original plan was to eat at Boog’s BBQ. Boog Powell is the renowned Oriole first baseman of my childhood during the glory days of the Orioles. He was quite the power hitter, and I met him once at Boog’s BBQ 17 years ago. I don’t think he remembers. The garage sale took too much time, so we opted for chicken nuggets, a cold hotdog, fries and drinks. This was one of the most expensive meals of our trip, but we were at a ball game!

Two years ago, the Orioles showed signs of being a good team again. It had been a long rebuilding time. Then came last year. They were exciting from the get-go, and we followed them all the way to the playoffs. Shortstop Gunnar Henderson was named rookie of the year. I was proud to wear my Oriole shirts in public again. In prior years whenever I wore Oriole garb, I was greeted with shaking of heads and maybe next year. It was rough.

This year they started off with a bang, which led to a fizzle after the mid-season All Star game in July, which I blame partially on ESPN giving Gunnar Henderson custom-made shoes with a Lego motif. Gunnar’s game fell apart like an imitation Lego tower. Poor Gunnar. (I hate you ESPN.) Thankfully, we had such a big lead in our division that it was enough to keep us in the playoffs even if we didn’t win the division. (As I type this, our season is over much too quickly. Maybe next year!)

Going to a ballpark is a different experience from watching a game on TV. While television is preferred if you want to see everything, have a bathroom handy, not pay $12 for a hot dog, or not walk through the streets of Baltimore at night on your way back to the hotel, there’s nothing like the roar of the crowd and the sound of the organ to put you in the mood for a game, plus they showed us o TV.

Where else but at an Oriole game would everyone stand and actually sing the National Anthem. I mean everyone. I loved it. At the part of the song that goes “O, say does that star-spangled,” everyone yells “O.” It’s Oriole tradition. It’s fun. It’s America at its silliest and finest. I love it and I’m glad we went, regardless of the 10-0 loss. Maybe I’ll go again in another 17 years.

Bob and I, no worse for the wear, on Eutaw Street after the game.

Artie and Tommy are Together Again

Writing my book, Always Look for the Magic, started out as an exercise to keep memories alive, to keep those stories that my dad told from disappearing. It turned out to be much more than that for me as I wrote and edited. It became a connection with my parents and their families before me. Especially Tommy (my Uncle Tom).

Uncle Tom passed into Heaven last month. My dad, Arthur, the big brother, has been there since last October. It is a comfort to know they are together again.

I grew up in Maryland and lived close to tons of relatives on both sides of the family. My parents grew up across the street from each other, so everyone knew everyone else. When I was six, we moved from the Baltimore area an hour away to near Andrews Air Force Base where my dad worked. I’m not sure exactly when, but at some point, Uncle Tom, Aunt Audrey, and their three kids moved our way. We saw them a lot.

I know that as a kid I didn’t appreciate what was being built by those times together. It may have looked like eating dinner, playing badminton in the backyard, an epic game of Monopoly, or listening to the more musically inclined jamming in the basement; but it was family building blocks. Blocks of time that knitted us together.

Now we are all over the country. My three siblings and I and those three cousins all live in different states. Different regions, too. We don’t see each other often – in some cases it’s been over a decade.

Arthur and Tom, 1930

My cousin, Mark, and I have kept in contact more due to the fact that we both had our dads living with us and both had the privilege of being with them during those last days and weeks. We understood each other. It was comforting.

How does it work when you haven’t lived near each other in over forty years, that you can talk like best of friends? It works really well. For us, it’s aided by the fact that our dads both were Christians and we are, too. But I also know that somewhere deep in the foundations that were built when we were young, there was always a bridge to family. It’s like a draw bridge that you can lower and reach out to each other across the miles whenever you need to make the connections. It’s amazing.

I had a texting conversation with my cousins that lasted nearly two hours. We sent each other pictures and reconnected where necessary. We joked around and made fun of each other. I laughed and I cried. What a gift!

As a tribute to my Uncle Tom, I want you to know that he was a truly wonderful uncle. When Bob and I moved my parents into our house last September, he was on the phone to me with unsolicited (but good) counsel. “Bonnie, it’s not easy living with old people,” he told me.

I’m not sure if that was a quote that he picked up from my cousin when they moved under the same roof or if down in his basement he kept an even older person than his 88-year-old self, but I appreciated his call.

“Remember,” he warned, “it’s your house. You don’t need to change everything for them.”

Hum, I wondered, what had it been like for my poor cousin and uncle during their transition? I’ll be sure to never ask!

“Also, my brother can be difficult,” he added.

Can’t we all!

After my dad died, Uncle Tom called my mom about three times a week to check on her. They had been like best friends/siblings growing up together. They shared their love for the Baltimore Orioles and music and, of course, my dad.

As my father’s hearing reached the point that made telephone calls difficult, Uncle Tom and Mom did most of the communicating, especially during baseball season. Uncle Tom would call and complain about the Orioles or they’d relive the highlights of a victory.

Two of my own sons are Oriole fans like their grandmother and uncle. Eleven years ago, our son Jesse was growing concerned that his grandmother had not been to Camden Yards since its opening in 1992, so we made it happen.

Of course, we took Uncle Tom with us to the ballgame. This was the first up-close-and-personal experience that Jesse had with his great-uncle. It was love at first sight as Uncle Tom let Miguel Tejada have it for messing up at shortstop – standing up and booing him and telling anyone who would listen that the Orioles should get rid of him (in so many words). Since my dad was more of a fan-by-marriage, Jesse had never experienced a rabid Oriole fan of the male persuasion. It made his day.

What a fond memory that is for me – four generations at the iconic ballpark bonding over the Baltimore Orioles.

More important than his love for the Orioles, he was a prayer warrior and vocal about his walk with Jesus. I liked the way he referred to my dad as his big brother. I also can’t forget hearing him call his two sons “the beauties.” He was always part of my life whether near or far. I will miss him.